Wednesday, January 29, 2014

This Day In Gay Utah History January 29th

January 29
1960-Greg Louganis, Olympic diver was born. Louganis is openly gay and tested positive for HIV in 1988. In the 1988 Seoul Olympics, he suffered a concussion after hitting his head on the springboard during the preliminary rounds.  Despite his injury, he went on to repeat the dive during the finals, earning the gold medal. Controversy followed that he had not disclosed his HIV status when he was injured and bleeding.  In the years since his diagnosis was made public, Louganis has been an outspoken HIV awareness advocate.

1963-A group calling themselves the United White Citizens of Utah printed an appeal to Utah lawmakers to vote against the civil rights legislation. The letter was placed on each desk, Monday and in part said: In all of its history, Utah has never had a civil rights law and as a result Utah has never had any troubles.  All races now live together in harmony and peace.  A so called civil rights bill could only create trouble where none now exist.”

1965 Friday- The Salt Lake City Police Vice Control unit and military authorities in the area were commended by the American Social Health Association for their efforts in the control of commercial prostitution. (01/29/65 Page B4 col.1 SLTribune)

1965-Friday- A preliminary hearing for Gary Horning and Leon Dyer, charged with 1st degree murder in the death of George Moriarty was held with five witnesses testifying. (01/30/65 page 25 col. 7 SLTribune)

1976 Thursday Daily Utah Chronicle page 5 “Not SinfulDear Mr. Hollingshaus, loosen your tie and unbutton your shirt, I think you’ll find that your neck is bright red.  I think Mr. Hollingshau, it is not the gays or the supporters of the gay movement that are decaying our society but instead it is people like you.  It is not sinful or perverted to be attracted to the same sex.  Relationships are not based solely on the performance in the bed room; there are emotions involved you know. I myself do not engage in homosexual activities, but I do have many close friends who do.  Why are you afraid of condoning homosexuality? Are you afraid you might be converted? I really don’t think its something you realized over night.  If you are gay you are gay.  God created you that way.  Ellen Wright

1989-Artie Wallace, the first PWA to be granted custody of a child, died of complications from AIDS at age 33.

1989 Sunday- I met with Rocky O’Donavan after Quaker Meeting. We went for a walk and discussed the Historical Society meeting this week. I said I would bring the key to open up Crossroads Urban Center. He also told me an interesting but bizarre story. 

1990-Doctors in China announced that they could cure homosexuality by use of electroshock and aversion therapy.

1992- Utah’s House of Representative passed House Bill 26 requiring prostitutes and their customers to under go mandatory tests for HIV infection passed with a vote of 62-5.. (01/29/92 Page: B2 SLTribune)

1992  HATE-CRIME BILL OPPONENTS LASH OUT AT HOMOSEXUALITY DURING CAPITOL HILL DEBATE  PERSECUTION: `SEXUAL ORIENTATION' SHOULDN'T BE INCLUDED IN BILL, SOME SAY.  By Bob Bernick Jr., Political Editor  The debate over a bill aimed at stopping hate crimes - those prompted by bigotry and bias - actually showed some bias Wednesday. Some of those opposed to the bill - which includes homosexuals as a special group - lashed out against homosexuality. And they said that those who stand against homosexuality - including U.S. Sen. Jesse Helms of North Carolina - have in turn been victims of hate attacks by gays and lesbians. Debate on the bill will continue Friday morning. But some Republicans and Democrats on the House Judiciary Committee have already indicated they don't want to include homosexual victims in the bill. Joy Beech of Families Alert said statistics show that a number of homosexuals molest children - a statement that brought groans from some of the audience. She said homosexuals should not be a group included in Rep. Frank Pignanelli's hate-crime bill. The bill would impose increased penalties for almost any crime committed against a person because of the victim's race, religion, ancestry, national origin, ethnicity or sexual orientation. Sodomy is a crime in Utah. Beech said, "We should not give privilege to those who actually violate our laws and are criminals." Beech's argument focuses on part of the issue and is much disputed by Pignanelli, D-Salt Lake, and other supporters of the bill. Pignanelli said at least half of all hate crimes committed in Utah are committed against gays and lesbians, so it makes little sense to have a hate crime law and exclude them. "Some men think it's a good time to get drunk and go gay bashing," Pignanelli said.  Dale Sorenson, speaking for a gay group, said gay organizations have documented 273 violent attacks against gays and lesbians in 1990, with most gays saying they've been harassed at some time. "These are planned, premeditated attempts to destroy Utah's diversity. Hate crimes have a higher impact than, say, a bar fight because they strike at the core of a person's identity." A number of religious, racial and ethnic organizations support the bill, including Jewish groups, the NAACP, Hispanic groups and gay and lesbian groups. But opponents are also vocal. Said Gayle Ruzicka of the Eagle Forum, "Acts of homosexuality are illegal. I can't believe that you would place a higher penalty on a gang that raped a homosexual youth than on one that raped my daughter? Why not just enforce our current laws?" Rep. Joanne Milner, D-Salt Lake, choking with emotion, said she was touched by a hate crime. She was the Sunday school teacher of the woman who was jogging with two black men when they were shot dead near Liberty Park by avowed racist Joseph Paul Franklin. "If we don't pass this bill it blackens the eye of our state, it bruises our image. It's something we can't afford to do."

1992- The Utah AIDS Foundation and American Civil Liberties Union opposed House Bill 26 sponsored by Sandy Democrat Rep. Kurt E. Oscarson. The House Human Services Committee unanimously approved the bill requiring prostitutes and their customers to undergo mandatory tests for HIV infection. ``Putting people in prison for HIV is not the way to do it,'' stated Robert Austin, associate director of the Utah AIDS Foundation. Utah’s House of Representative passed House Bill 26 with a vote of 62-5.

1993-President Clinton instructed Secretary of Defense Les Aspin to consult with military leaders on the inclusion of gays in the military.

1994 Saturday, PANEL DISCUSSION ON GAYS IS SUNDAY IN S.L. Reconciliation - "Gays, Lesbians, Mormon Families and Friends Seeking Spirituality" will sponsor a panel discussion at 7 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 30, in the Metropolitan Community Church, 823 S. 600 East. The discussion is planned for parents, gays and lesbians to learn about and understand each other and the challenges same-sex orientation bring to them and their families. Panelists, including parents, will include individuals who accept or who have difficulty accepting homosexuality. Regular meetings are held on the second and fourth Sundays at 7 p.m. at the church. Meetings consist of prayers, a hymn anda gospel discussion led by a reconciliation attendee. The group has a no-bashing policy, which is strictly enforced. All who attend in this spirit are welcome, group representatives say. Call 596-8315 for more information. Resurrection Metropolitan Community Church, 823 S. 600 East - April 4, Palm Sunday process of palms and "Passion of Christ," at 11 a.m.; April 8, Maundy Thursday worship at 7 p.m.; April 9, Good Friday "Spiritual Renewal," service at 7 p.m.;

1994 PANEL DISCUSSION ON GAYS IS SUNDAY IN S.L. Deseret News Published: Saturday, Jan. 29, 1994 Reconciliation - "Gays, Lesbians, Mormon Families and Friends Seeking Spirituality" will sponsor a panel discussion at 7 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 30, in the Metropolitan Community Church, 823 S. 600 East. The discussion is planned for parents, gays and lesbians to learn about and understand each other and the challenges same-sex orientation bring to them and their families. Panelists, including parents, will include individuals who accept or who have difficulty accepting homosexuality. Regular meetings are held on the second and fourth Sundays at 7 p.m. at the church. Meetings consist of prayers, a hymn and a gospel discussion led by a reconciliation attendee. The group has a no-bashing policy, which is strictly enforced. All who attend in this spirit are welcome, group representatives say.

1994 The Salt Lake Tribune Moose Lodges Must Give Up Booze or Admit Women It's Moose Lodges' Turn to Admit Women or Give Up Their Wine By Michael Phillips and Katherine Kapos The state has added Moose lodges to the growing list of fraternal groups that cannot serve  alcohol because they discriminate against women. On Friday, the Utah Alcoholic Beverage Control Commission suspended the licenses of Moose lodges in Salt Lake City and Tooele, effective February 25. "This is an equal-rights issue," said Frank Mylar, assistant attorney general.  "Women can plan social events, but they can't serve as officers and oversee  the lodge. That's a barrier we cannot ignore. The law won't let  us." The Utah Supreme Court ruled last April that Elks clubs and other fraternal groups must go dry unless they admit women as full members. The justices reasoned that any group with a Utah liquor license is regulated by the state and must comply with the state's civil-rights act. Elks lodges in Moab and Ogden have appealed that ruling, and on Friday the liquor commission ordered them not to serve alcohol while the appeal is pending. The rest of Utah's 16 Elks lodges either have surrendered their licenses or opened private clubs that admit women. But if Senate Minority Whip Mike Dmitrich has his way, lodges and other groups banning women and minorities will regain their right to serve liquor. Dmitrich, D-Price, has sponsored a bill to circumvent the court ruling. He wants to amend the civil-rights act so that charitable, fraternal and  religious organizations do not have to comply with last year's court  ruling. Friday at the Capitol, a Senate panel voted 3-2 to hold Dmitrich's bill,  which would allow fraternal groups to discriminate and still have a  liquor license. Opponents say the bill "undermines" the purpose of the  civil-rights act. "Civil-rights laws are intended to encourage better  behavior," said David Nelson, director of Gay and Lesbian Utah Democrats.  "[This exemption] sets up the state to reward those groups that discriminate."  Discrimination wasn't the only issue. Some senators felt the proposed bill is too broad. "Suppose some hate group calls itself a fraternal organization?" asked Sen. Lyle Hillyard, R-Logan. "Would they be allowed a liquor license? We need to take a good look at this." Added James Gonzales, director of the Latino activist group La Raza: "Three  years down the line we'll find out these exemptions are being used in a not-so-positive way." The bill may violate the U.S. Constitution, said  Patricia Owens, an attorney with the Office of Legislative Research and  General Counsel. She said the state might even be considered an  accomplice for granting a liquor license to groups that discriminate. Lodge  supporters deny they discriminate against women. "It is not a gender  issue or an equal-rights issue," said Sen. David Watson, R-St. George. "Other clubs allow women, so those alternatives are there." Worse, say members, the loss of the liquor licenses means the demise of the lodges, which rely on income from alcohol sales to pay mortgages and other bills. Elks lodges have some 9,000 members statewide. Moose officials also say they cannot afford to stay open without their liquor licenses. The Salt Lake Moose has about 740 members; the Tooele Lodge has 680 members. The Senate Judiciary Committee will consider the bill again next week, and has invited the state Division of Alcoholic Beverage Control to endorse it. The state liquor commission said Friday it will not  support or oppose the bill while it is deciding whether lodges are complying  with current state laws. "This just isn't our issue anyway," said  Jerry Fenn, commission head. "This is for the Legislature to decide."

1996-The San Francisco board of supervisors voted 8-0 to allow a civil ceremony at City Hall when same-sex couples register under the city's domestic partner policy. The cost of the ceremony was $30.

Jay Peterseon
1998 Charles B. Baxter, 25, was shot in the neck over an argument about Jay Lynn Peterson’s, 32, sexual preference and died becoming the state's first criminal homicide victim of the year. Baxter was arguing with Peterson, on Exchange Place (355 South) between Main Street and State Street apparently over Peterson's sexual orientation, police say, in what was to become a murder-suicide case. Baxter allegedly made a derogatory statement toward Peterson, and Peterson replied, ``Yes, and I'm proud of it!'' witnesses told police. Peterson allegedly pulled a gun and shot Baxter point-blank. Then Peterson when home and committed suicide.  Peterson was born January 23, 1966 in West Valley City,

  • 1998-Thurday Charles B. Baxter was arguing with Jay Lynn Peterson, 32, on Exchange Place (355 South) between Main Street and State Street on Thursday night, apparently over Peterson's sexual orientation, police say, in what was to become a murder-suicide case. Baxter allegedly made a derogatory statement toward Peterson, and Peterson replied, ``Yes, and I'm proud of it!'' witnesses told police. Peterson allegedly pulled a gun and shot Baxter point-blank, said Salt Lake City police Lt. Harvey Jackson. The shooter then fled to his apartment at 380 E. Fourth Ave. ``He called his brother in Price and said, `I just shot somebody downtown in Salt Lake City, and I'm going to commit suicide,' '' Jackson said. ``The brother called Price police, and the Price police called us.'' Salt Lake City officers surrounded the apartment. SWAT members were taking their positions around the building when they heard a shot about 11 p.m.  ``One of the SWAT guys saw a crack in the door in the back and noticed somebody lying on the floor, so they decided to go in,'' Jackson said.  Peterson was found dead in the kitchen about 1 a.m., apparently from a self-inflicted gunshot wound. Police believe the victim and suspect did not know each other. Thursday night's attack is the first criminal homicide of the year for Salt Lake City, according to Jackson, although two other deaths are being investigated as possible homicides
2005  Subject: Community Forum Meeting at The Center  The Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire is inviting interested community members to attend a Community Forum on Tuesday February 1st at the Center's Black Box Meeting Space. The Forum will be held at 7 p.m. to explain internal changes in the Monarch System and put to rest rumors about fiduciary concerns and past actions by court officers. The Court wants to provide time to discuss with the community at large past mistakes and future goals. The Royal Court is the oldest Queer philanthropic organization in Utah founded in 1976. It has raised 100s of thousands of dollars for such worthwhile causes as Toys for Tots, AIDS Prevention, PWACs, Breast Cancer Awareness, and many more.

2005  Utah hate crimes bill gets new voice National case: The sister of a Texas man beaten and dragged to death speaks in support of stiffening laws in the Beehive State By Jason Bergreen The Salt Lake Tribune Strolling through the halls of Parkview Elementary School on Friday afternoon, Louvon Byrd Harris commented on the beauty of Utah's mountains and the kindness of its residents. Her words were sincere and to the point, just as they were an hour earlier when she spoke at a hate-crimes symposium about the slaying of her brother James Byrd Jr. in 1998. In front of a group of Utah community leaders, Harris recounted some of the details of how her brother, a black man, was brutally murdered by three white men outside Jasper, Texas. "How can you heal from that?" she asked. "How can you go on from that? There's no closure." Harris' goal during her first visit to Utah was to encourage lawmakers and community leaders to support the passage of stronger hate-crime legislation in the Beehive State. Sens. Karen Hale, D-Salt Lake, and Greg Bell, R-Fruit Heights, will co-sponsor the legislation, Hale said Friday. The bill increases the criminal penalties for bias crimes by one step; for example, increasing a class A misdemeanor to a third-degree felony. Bias would include any crime based on race, color, disability, religion, sexual orientation, national origin, ancestry, age or gender. The list is based on classifications already in laws that have been upheld before the U.S. Supreme Court. Utah's current hate crimes law is one of four nationwide that fails to include a list of protected groups. When challenged in the courts, as a Georgia law was recently, legislation without a list of groups has been ruled ''unconstitutionally vague.'' That is the argument that Rep. David Litvack, D-Salt Lake City, has tried to make over the past five years without success. Litvack, who had planned to make a sixth run at the bill this year, will now hold his legislation pending the performance of the Hale-Bell bill. "I really feel very optimistic," he said. Weber State University professor Forrest Crawford, who helped organize the symposium, invited Harris to speak. "We really did want a national voice to give local meaning to a pressing problem," Crawford said. "We think she has some very unique insights." During her visit, Harris also met with local religious leaders and Utah Gov. Jon Huntsman Jr. "I'm here to put a face behind James Byrd Jr.," she said at the symposium. Harris also met with former Democratic Sen. Alicia Suazo at Parkview Elementary School, where Suazo teaches second grade. Suazo championed hate-crime legislation after filling the seat of her husband, Sen. Pete Suazo, after his death in an ATV accident. "Hate is a learned behavior," Harris said while sitting in the school's library. "Everything learned can be unlearned. . . . People need to be aware, not relaxed about hate crimes because it could happen to them." Harris said she helped pass Texas' first hate-crime legislation in 2000. She called on Utahns to help do the same here. "There is a season for all things and this is the season for Utah to step up and pass a strong hate-crime bill," she said. The Associated Press contributed to this report.
  • Case history * James Byrd Jr., 49, died June 7, 1998. He was beaten by John William King, Shawn Allen Berry and Lawrence Russell Brewer before being chained to a pickup and dragged down a street near Jasper, Texas. Byrd was decapitated in the dragging. The men, who stood trial separately, were convicted of Byrd's murder in 1999. King and Brewer both received the death penalty and Berry was sentenced to life in prison.
2005 All, I would like to take this opportunity to thank EVERYONE who participated in the Bear Auction that took place last night at Club 161.  Together we raised a very successful $600 to go towards the Mr. Utah Bear / Mr. Utah Cub contest.  This money will enable the group to do so much more with the Contest. Thanks especially to Ron, Todd and Jeff for planning and organizing the Auction, Ken Baker for calling the Auction, and to all of the hot men who Gave up their time, talents, and services to be auctioned off.  They include Jeff McKay, Scot B, Rusty James, Peter Savas, Ron Hunt, Daddy Todd, and a non member of the UBA named David.  We also had four people from the Audience who volunteered on the spot to be Auctioned including one of our Members Gary McCulloch, and friends of the Bears, Steve, Francis, and Barry. The Club was packed, the night was great and we as the Board of the UBA send out a HUGE - THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! As we can see........together things are happening.  Lets keep it going. Best to everyone, The UBA Board.

2007 Hey Y'all! Don't forget the LGSU meeting tonight.  We are having our last overtly political meeting and we will be discussing our lobbying efforts.  Also, you have to show up to get your picture taken for your official LGSU membership card! We meet at 7:30pm in room 323 of the Union (by the old LGBT center).  See you all tonight! –John

2009 City Guide 2009 | Gay BCs of Utah -Spelling out the vibrant SLC gay community. By Terry Mitchell Nani salt LAKE City Weekly A is for Amendment 3, passed in Utah in 2004, to define marriage in Utah as the legal union between a man and a woman and to remind the gay community in Salt Lake City that we’re still a pretty heavy church-state environment.  B is for Babs De Lay, queen of local Vagina Monologues productions, real-estate mogul, radio host and force of one who’s accomplished terrific things for this community. B is also for Saturday night at Babylon (404 S. West Temple) … gotta love it. C is for Christine Johnson, a Democratic state representative for the 25th District. She is all things good and supportive. C is also for her polar opposite: West Jordan state Sen. Chris Buttars who has nothing ‘buttar’ to do than be all things bad and disruptive to our community. Let’s also throw in our fave community novelty store here as well: Cahoots Cards & Gifts (878 E. 900 South)  D is for the annual SLC Dyke March, sponsored by lesbian social group sWerve (SwerveUtah.com), as part of the Pride Festival in June. E is for Elevated, what life is about in Utah (says so on our license plates), including elevated stats—like three times the national average for prescription drug abuse (and that’s just Utah County). Also for Equality Utah (EqualityUtah.org) led by Mike Thompson! F is for Utah Pride Festival (coming up June 6-7, 2009, at Washington Square—terrific queer folk, good fun, good food—all things fab! And did I mention the parade!? Hmmm … I think I did this once. (UtahPride.org) G is for GLBT, a reminder that the “gay community” is as much about lesbian, bisexual and transgender issues and interests, too. And the Gay-Straight Alliance, school clubs that give state lawmakers fodder for new crusades each year. H is for Home Improvement, and not the re-runs. The latest and the greatest in “gay-borhoods”? Check out Rose Park. Oh, and the good work of the Human Rights Campaign (fund-raising dinner & silent auction June 20, 2009, HRCUtah.org) comes to mind. I is for Idaho, Utah’s neighbor to the north, and home of Sen. Larry Craig and his tapping toes. What was he thinking? Closet madness, I tell you. J is for hardworking state Rep. Jackie Biskupski, D-Salt Lake City. It’s also for Justification. How many local gay men in hetero marriage alone continue to justify a double lifestyle? Talk about having their cake and eating it, too! K is for KY Jelly, a close second for when Cahoots is closed—but our favorite lube is Neutrogena’s Light Sesame Oil. TMI?          L is for full Liquor License, and the hopes that one comes soon for the latest and the greatest in gay bars: Jam in the Marmalade (751 N. 300 West). M is for Michael Aaron, and his tireless journalistic efforts and contributions to this community! Check out QSaltLake; it’s all there. It also stands for the city’s Mutual Commitment Registry. Yep, there really is one, guys and gals, and only a few have taken advantage (ci.slc.ut.us/recorder/MCregistry.htm).  N is for Ninth & Ninth. It’s quaint, it’s charming. it’s our own little West Hollywood. All it needs is a good bar.  O is for Out Loud & Proud … there’s quite a few of us here, but more could stand up and be counted. It’s also for Orem, where Bruce Bastian founded WordPerfect before coming Out and later establishing the philanthropic B.W. Bastian Foundation. P is for the Utah Pride Center (GLBTccu.org) which enjoys Val Larabee as its fearless leader. Good on ya, UPC. Speaking of Val and her pals, you just may find them at Paper Moon (3737 S. State). Q is for QVinum, for our community’s local wine enthusiasts, offering evenings with friends, food and, of course, wine (see QVinum.com). Or what about Queer Utah Aquatic Club (QuacQuac.org)? Apart from being one of the most social queer organizations, they give a visual definition to “men in tights.”  R is for ROSIE: here’s a new one for ya: Righteously Open-minded Sisters/supporters Inclusive of Everyone based in Cache Valley/USU. Who knew? You go, girls! S is for Sen. Scott McCoy, D-Salt Lake City, a voice of reason on the Hill. And for a Friday night at Club Sound (579 W. 200 South), where queer 18 youth can join in on the fun ... good tunes for all.  T is for good things coming in threes: Try-Angles (251 W. 900 South), Trapp Door (615 W. 100 South) and The Trapp (102 S. 600 West). And also for a fave gay-friendly eatery: Trio Café (680 S. 900 East)  U is for the fine congregations of Unitarian Universalist churches, openly affirming to the gay community, at 569 S. 1300 East and 6876 Highland Dr. V is for love, Valor, compassion … not the stage play or movie. Qualities that everyone, including the GLBT community, wants.  W is for Wendover, and the Fabulous Fun Bus! Bus, laughs, meal and a buzz, all for about $20. (QSaltLake.com/FunBus).  X is for X-rated … lacking! Where is free agency? Utah still has a ways to go. I guess we have to rely on GayVideoBox at home! Y is for GLBT Youth … count them in with TINT (Tolerant Intelligent Network of Teens), a youth activity organization sponsored by the Pride Center … they have their own youth center, too. The Queer Prom (fantastic fun for teens 14-20), is held in late April (GLCCU.com). Z is for Zion Curtain, referring to the insidious influence of the LDS Church in the politics of the West, most recently felt in the church’s role in helping pass California’s antigay marriage Proposition 8.  Terry Mitchell Nani relocated to Utah five years ago from California. Father of five grown kids, Nani possesses a diverse resume and resides with partner, Steve, and horses on an acre in West Bountiful.

2010 Gay Underwear Fetish Salt Lake City’s newest gay residency, Püre continues its post-Sundance run with an underwear fetish party Jan. 29 (sponsored by Mischievous Pleasures). There will be a Platinum Pussy revue at 11:30 p.m. Catch the purely fun action at The Rail (235 N. 500 West).

2010 On Jan. 29, Utah Rep. Christine A. Johnson proposes and sponsors a bill to study discrimination in business employment and housing based on sexual orientation or gender identity. State legislators don't vote on the bill, and it isn't adopted

Lee Beardall
2012 We regret to announce the passing of Lee Beardall, an Affirmation member from Salt Lake City. Over the years, Lee attended Affirmation conferences and events in Utah and in California.  Woodville Lee Beardall was born on August 5, 1939. After high school, he received his Bachelor of Arts degree from Brigham Young University and a Masters in City Planning from the University of California at Berkeley. He served a mission in England for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. He worked most of his life as a city planner in California, retiring from the city of Monterey. Lee had a love of learning, politics, music, movies, and was an avid fan of the Cal Bears. Upon retirement, Lee decided to move back to his roots in Salt Lake City, Utah, where he spent his most recent years supporting his nieces and nephews and their children by attending their many athletic events and dance recitals. Lee passed away unexpectedly on Sunday, January 29, 2012 and was buried in the Salt Lake City Cemetery. We will remember him with fondness.


2018  The following is an open letter to the First Presidency of the Mormon Church. A year ago, I sent this letter directly to the First Presidency, but never received a reply. To the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints: In February, 2016, my son, Harry Fisher, committed suicide. Harry was a student in his final year at Brigham Young University and he was a gospel doctrine teacher in his singles ward. He served a mission for the Mormon church in New York state and he was a believing Mormon most of his life. One month before his suicide, Harry posted on Facebook that he was gay. When Harry came out as gay, I thought he was on his way toward choosing an alternative lifestyle. I was wrong. I now realize Harry was trying to both be gay and be a faithful Mormon. That contradiction must have been a contributor toward his death. Harry never left the church. Instead, he left his lonely apartment in Draper on a February night, drove to Israel Canyon west of Utah Lake, walked up a ridge in the snow and shot himself. Since Harry’s death, I have soul-searched for all the ways I contributed to his death. I have enough soul-searching to last the rest of my life. I ask you, the leaders of the Mormon church, to soul-search the same as I. At Harry’s funeral in Orem, a woman came and held my hand a long, long time before telling me that her lesbian LDS niece had taken her life the day before we found Harry’s body. Her niece shared the pain my son shared. Her family shares the pain my family shares. But not us alone. Every year, perhaps more LGBT Mormons take their lives than were massacred at a gay nightclub in Orlando. On Facebook, Harry posted that “Being gay in Utah and while being a Latter-day Saint can be hard … every couple of Sundays I have to go out to my car to keep from crying at church.” This is sad, but there is something much sadder for faithful, gay Mormons than cruel comments. That is the lack of a place for them in the church they believe in. Harry had a choice between marrying a person he was not attracted to, leaving the Mormon church or living alone. These are choices that you, the leaders of the Mormon church, don’t present to heterosexuals or to yourself. Why am I writing you? I am not writing for Harry because he won’t be coming back. I am not writing for my family because we are healing. I am writing for every LGBT Mormon who is suffering and is dealing with the same choices Harry dealt with. The more faithful they are to the church, the more impossible these choices become. Many LDS children grow up to be gay or lesbian. When young, these children learn to sing that they are children of God; they go to church every Sunday; and they are immersed in Mormon culture. When they reach puberty, they suddenly find they are different and are presented with struggles and choices that heterosexual Mormons never face. I ask you to give a place in your church for your LGBT children. I ask you to give them the same choices you give yourself, to have love, to marry and to share their life in the faith they believe in. I saw and touched Harry’s blood. His blood cried out. It didn’t cry out for vengeance; it cried out for acceptance and love; a place to belong. The cold, icy ground above Utah Lake accepted his blood. Can you do as much? Please accept a request to fast and pray with me. I humbly wait for an answer. Sincerely, Paul Fisher Pleasant Grove, UT

2020 The January Public Oratory of the Utah Queer Historical Society featured Jerry Buie We are excited to have Jerry Buie share his life story with us!! Jerry Buie MSW, LCSW has been providing counseling services since 1994 when he graduated from the U's College of Social Work. Jerry’s work experience includes working for the Department of Corrections, Division of Child and Family Services. In 1996 Jerry developed Pride Counseling in Salt Lake City Utah as a LGBTQ mental health facility and maintains his practice today. He is currently a full time Associate Professor/Lecturer at the University of Utah College of Social Work. He has presented throughout the State nationally on a variety of social work and clinical issues including issues relating to diversity, cultural appreciation, religion as it relates to LGBTQ+ issues, shamanism, therapist self-care and personal self-awareness. He has served on various boards and consulted in a variety of issues including Sage Utah, the Naraya Cultural Preservation Council, Utah AIDS Foundation, Gay Men’s Health Movement, and Reconciliation and Growth.




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