Wednesday, July 17, 2013

This Day in Gay Utah History July 17th

17 July 
1897 Sheriff Davis of Box Elder county was in Ogden yesterday looking for the two boys who escaped from jail in Brigham City Thursday night. The boys names are Pratt and Frank. Each Is about 10 years of age and they are charged with the crime of  sodomy. The Salt Lake herald. (Salt Lake City [Utah)

1930 Deseret News 

1967 Monday- Justices F. Henri Henriod, E. R. Callister and R.L. Tuckett of Utah Supreme Court declared invalid part of Salt Lake City’s ordinance dealing with prostitution. The court said. “We are of the opinion that the state by enacting comprehensive and complete laws pertaining to sexual offenses has pre-empted that field.  It does not appear that the state intended that the municipalities deal with these offenses except in those areas pertaining to prostitution where the Legislature had made specific grants of authority to municipalities (07/18/67 SLTribune page 15)

1982- Commander Michael Trestrail, Queen Elizabeth's personal bodyguard, was forced to resign after he was outed in the British newspapers. Soon after, reports surfaced that Margaret Thatcher wanted to raise the issue of gays in the palace until the Queen summoned her to Buckingham Palace and told her to mind her own business.

1986- Infomer Cory De Young claimed that the Sun Tavern owner, Joe Redburn, knew of the cocaine and marijuana drug dealing by his employees at a meeting before the department of business regulations.  The Salt Lake City Police department was seeking to revoke the Sun’s business license. The hearing was postponed indefinitely after city prosecutor Art Keesler suffered a heart attack.


1986 CROSS COUNTRY CYCLISTS VISIT SL TO RAISE CASH FOR AIDS VICTIMS (SLTribune B3-1) Article on a bicyclist cross country tour to raise money and AIDS awareness stopping in Salt Lake City.

Floyd Gamble
1988-Floyd Gamble, of the Royal Court, was elected chair of Pride Day ’88 which was held on July 17, 1988, again at Sunnyside Park.. Rev. Bruce Barton of the Resurrection Metropolitan Community Church was given the 2nd Kristen Ries Award for outstanding community service. Again the Saliva Sisters performed,  and the first Utah AIDS Quilt panel created by Ben Williams for Princess Royale Tracy Ross was
Bruce Barton
displayed. The first banner to be placed across the stage announcing "Gay and Lesbian Pride Day" was created also by Ben Williams after GLCCU gave permission for him to do so. A heated debate at the council ensued over whether such a banner would keep closeted Gay and Lesbian people away from the event. An estimated 1,200 people attended.

  • “How can we instill a sense of Gay Pride into our closeted brothers and sisters if we our selves are afraid to proclaim that we are Gay and Proud at our own Gay Pride Day Celebration for Gods sake?!”-Ben Williams said at a community council debate
  • “John Reeves and Jeff McGrath from the Provo’s Men’s Group came by to pick me up at 9:30. I was a zombie from being up so late. At Sunnyside Park I helped set up our booth and I displayed the panel from the Utah AIDS Quilt I made for Tracy Ross. I hope to stimulate some more interest in the project. Everyone else has given up on it. I sold giant Chocolate Chip cookies for a $1 from our booth.  Mark LaMarr was walking around all day wearing a cowboy hat, boots, a security head set phone, a T-shirt and a bikini swim suit.  The Saliva Sisters were great as usual. Later I heard that about 1,200 people showed up this year throughout the day.” [Journal of Ben Williams]
1998-A group of former-"ex-gays" held a press conference to counter ads that stated that Gays and Lesbians could become straight by converting to Christianity. They said the ads were an attempt to falsely present gays and lesbians as anti-Christian and deny that many are spiritual people. In response to Christian right claims that Christianity cures homosexuality, US Rep Barney Frank was quoted in the San Francisco Examiner as saying "Being Jewish, would I have to go through a 24-step program instead of a 12-step program?"

1998-The Red Lobster restaurant announced that it was dropping a legal challenge to a Cook County Illinois  Human Rights ordinance which prohibits discrimination based on sexual orientation.

1998-A group of Orthodox Jews in Israel gathered to discuss the plight of Gay men and women who are also Orthodox Jews. 





Kristin Rushforth
2002 After a quick switch in leadership, the Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Resource
Charles Milne
Center has a new adviser. Charles Milne, a 2001 U graduate, will take the interim role until July 2003, when the U hopes to guarantee funding for a full-time position. "My goals while I'm adviser include creating educational opportunities for people to understand being identified as gay or lesbian," he said. Milne served in many different capacities while at the U, including Lesbian and Gay Student Union President and Vice President and a member of the Union Board for three years. He also has spoken at international and regional conferences focused on the center's  issues. He went to Indiana University to study higher education administration, but kept contact with many people he worked with at the U.  "They knew I was taking a year off from graduate school and that I had experience with LGBT issues, so they offered me the job," he said. Although Milne doesn't know what he wants to do after July, he does plan to go back to Indiana to finish his graduate degree. He says some of the major challenges for him are people's lack of understanding in what the center does. "People think this is a place only for lesbian and gays, but it's a place for people of all sexual orientations," he said.  He is also trying to create open dialogue across campus about sexual orientation. The position became free after U administrators dismissed Kristin Rushforth in early April without explanation. Rushforth refused to comment.

2003 Laws on consensual sodomy, premarital sex targets of suit By Elizabeth Neff The Salt Lake Tribune  Supported by a U.S. Supreme Court ruling, a Salt Lake County man on Wednesday asked a judge to invalidate without a trial Utah laws against consensual sodomy and premarital sex.   In a motion for summary judgment, a man identifying himself only as D. Berg has asked 3rd District Judge L.A. Dever to determine whether either statute applies to his "past and future conduct."  Utah's consensual sodomy law forbids "any sexual act with a [unmarried] person who is 14 years of age or older involving the genitals of one person and the mouth or anus of another person, regardless of the sex of either participant." The antifornication statute bans premarital sex, saying "any unmarried person who shall voluntarily engage in sexual intercourse with another is guilty of fornication."  Both crimes are class B misdemeanors punishable by up to 6 months in jail and a $1,000 fine.  Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff readily admits a U.S. Supreme Court ruling issued last month has already nullified both laws, although they have not yet been repealed by legislators. But Shurtleff said Wednesday his office will probably still ask Dever to throw out Berg's lawsuit, arguing Berg has no right to bring the suit because he was not charged with either crime.  Allowing Berg to bring the lawsuit could establish a precedent for others without standing in court to do the same, Shurtleff said.   "Right now the law is unenforceable . . . for an attorney to bring a case that he knows he can't bring is not responsible," Shurtleff said. "I have a duty to protect the taxpayers from attorneys trying to get attorneys' fees at taxpayers' expense." Berg's
Brian Barnard
attorney, Salt Lake City civil rights attorney Brian Barnard, said he thinks his client can meet the burden of standing in state court, and that the Attorney General's Office could end the case  quickly. "The way to handle it is simply to say the statute is simply unconstitutional, and that keeps attorneys fees to a minimum," Barnard said. Berg claims although he has not been arrested, he has privately violated the sodomy law by having heterosexual oral sex, and the fornication law by having sex with another unmarried person. He is also seeking a temporary restraining order preventing the laws from being enforced while the lawsuit is pending, $1 in damages, and attorney's fees. The U.S. Supreme Court in June held a Texas law banning gay sex unconstitutional, as it dictates to consenting adults what should take place in the privacy of their bedrooms. The justices said consensual sodomy laws are attempts to control personal relationships that are "within the liberty of persons to choose without being punished as criminals."  The decision did not apply to two other portions of Utah's statute that prohibit forcible, or nonconsensual, sodomy and sodomy on a child.

Michael Aaron
2003 Naked Lunch Michael Aaron Naked Lunch is once again upon us. Friday, July 18 Noon - 1:30 pm JeepNekkid's private back yard West Capitol Hill area Bring: Lunch if you want to eat Drinks Towel if you want to - we have lots as well Good spirit Expect: About a dozen guys of various shapes and sizes (actually,  many new people have expressed that they might be coming) Hot tub, hammock, shade, sun deck, BBQ, talking, sunning, etc. Hope to see you there! -JeepNekkid

2003 Subject Patty Reagan's AIDS Lecture; Ben Williams to
Stan Penfold
Stan Penfold “I dropped a CD for you of the Patty Reagan Lecture at your reception desk about 2:30 today. After August 1st only USHS members will have access to USHS archives and materials. Membership is $10, $15, and $50. All PWA's can get membership at $10 or less due to hardship. Please do not duplicate the interview without permission from board members of USHS. Thank You, Ben Williams
  • Subject: Patty Reagan’s Interview CD Stan Penfold to Ben Williams Thanks Ben.  It was great to listen to.  I put it back up at our front  desk with your name on it.  You can come by and pick it up anytime. Thanks again. Stan
Simon LeVay
2005 Family Fellowship Building Bridges - Healing Relationships - Loving and Serving All Dear Friend of Family Fellowship, The quarterly Family Fellowship Forum will be held on Sunday, July 17th in the Salt Lake City Public Library Auditorium at 3:00 p.m. (note time change) The Library is on the corner of 400 South and 200 East. We have invited Simon LeVay to speak. His talk is entitled "The Latest From the Lab" and will provide information on up-to-the-minute research on the biology of homosexuality. Dr. LeVay garnered worldwide attention in 1991 when he published his research on the differences in the hypothalamus between gay and straight men. He earned a doctorate in Neuroanatomy from the University of Gottingen, Germany, and has served on the faculties of Harvard Medical School and the Salk Institute for Biological Studies. The author of The Sexual Brain, Queer Science and other books as well  as over 40 research papers, Dr. LeVay taught the course on Human Sexuality in 2003 at Stanford University and is currently working on the 2nd edition of his textbook entitled "Human Sexuality," which he co-authors with Sharon M. Valente. Light refreshments will be served following the lecture that will conclude at 4:30 p.m. Family Fellowship is a volunteer service organization, a diverse collection of primarily Mormon families engaged in the cause of strengthening families with homosexual members. We share our witness that gay and lesbian Mormons can be great blessings in the lives of their families, and that families can be great blessings in the lives of the gay and lesbian members. We strive to become more understanding and appreciative of each other. We seek to put behind us all attitudes which are anti-family or which threaten loving relationships. All who can support these goals are welcome to contribute.Sincerely, Family Fellowship

Matt Aune
2009 LDS Church: Cited couple engaged in passionate spectacle
Derek Jones
Religion It was no 'simple kiss on the cheek' at the plaza, statement says By Rosemary Winters The Salt Lake Tribune Police report (PDF file) The kiss wasn't just a kiss. So alleged the LDS Church on Friday in statement further explaining why security guards detained a gay couple on its Main Street Plaza last week. The church's statement said there was "much more involved" than a "simple kiss on the cheek." It said the two men "engaged in passionate kissing, groping, profane and lewd language, and had obviously been using alcohol." Derek Jones and Matt Aune were cited July 9 for trespassing on the plaza on their way home to the Marmalade neighborhood from a Gallivan Center concert. "I guess they consider hugging groping," Aune said Friday. "Regardless of if a kiss is on the cheek or on the lips, it still is not inappropriate -- unless you are gay, according to the LDS Church." Aune said he held Jones' hand in the plaza and gave him a kiss on the face. "These men," the church statement said, "were asked to stop engaging in behavior deemed inappropriate for any couple on the plaza." Aune and Jones have acknowledged they had been drinking at the Gallivan show earlier, and that they refused to leave the church plaza, using profanity, after they were stopped by the guards. Both were handcuffed by the guards and Jones, Aune said, was thrown to the ground. (The guard denied any roughness when asked by a police officer.) "As far as being lewd and profane [in language]," Aune said, "I think anyone who was detained against their will in the way we were ... would be upset." Aune said the couple plan to contest the trespassing charges in court. A Salt Lake City police report released on the incident said a church security guard observed the couple "kissing and hugging" and asked them to leave the plaza for displaying "behavior that is unwanted."  In the police report, the officer mentions smelling alcohol on Aune's breath. Salt Lake City Prosecutor Sim Gill said he is waiting for additional information from police and to learn whether any video cameras recorded the episode. "My office is very carefully reviewing the case," Gill said, "to make sure that it is warranted for prosecution." The LDS Church has faced public criticism for the guards' response. A "kiss-in" protest was staged outside the plaza last weekend and another one is scheduled Sunday. rwinters@sltrib.com Tribune reporter Nate Carlisle contributed to this story.
  • 2009 Casey Jones: A kiss, a kiss-off, an apology due- It was the kiss heard 'round the world. Matt Aune, 28, put his arm around Derek Jones, 25, and gave him a smooch on the cheek in front of God, the Angel Moroni and a couple of LDS security guards a week ago last Thursday. God, who loves all his children, and Moroni, a statue atop the Salt Lake Temple, were, by all accounts, unmoved by this innocent display of affection, but the same can't be said of the LDS Five-O. Long story short, all heaven broke loose on Main Street Plaza, once a public thoroughfare but now the exclusive property of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which is happy to let you pass or even sit a spell as long as you obey the rules, which church officials seem to make up as they go along. The guards told the Salt Lake City twosome that their behavior was inappropriate and ordered them to skedaddle, or get a room, or something to that effect. And Aune and Jones, knowing fully well that they wouldn't have been rousted if they were a classic Dick and Jane couple instead of a Dick and Dick duo, told the guards to, and I'm paraphrasing again, kiss off. If it were me, just for fun, and to avoid arrest, I'd have turned to the nearest guard and said "OK. We're leaving (pause for effect) you big handsome man, you!" Then I'd have skipped on out of there before the guards got over their shock and reached for the nickel-plated bracelets. But who am I to judge? Although my fashion sense is impeccable, I'm not gay. I'm a white, middle-aged, Protestant heterosexual male, and as such, I couldn't be more shielded from discrimination if I were a New Haven firefighter. I have absolutely no idea what it's like to suffer intolerance and/or prejudice, but it must be very frustrating to be treated differently just for being yourself. And Aune and Jones, despite church claims that Ozzie and Harriet would have suffered the same fate if they were swapping spit on the plaza, were being treated differently. And they were frustrated. Having personally witnessed heterosexual couples canoodling on the plaza, and well aware that the church does not cotton to homosexual activity, Aune and Jones rose up in righteous indignation and gave the guards lip, a regular tongue-lashing, called them everything but holy.  The next thing you know the pair were handcuffed, waiting for real cops to arrive, at which time they were cited for trespassing and sent on their way. End of story. Not. News articles were written, the church was outed for being intolerant, and just plain mean, and, as often happens when people are treated unfairly, a protest was scheduled, a "kiss-in," a smoochfest. A hundred people, gay and straight, planted themselves on the public sidewalk at the edge of the plaza and started planting kisses on their partners last Sunday. They had so much fun that they're going to do it again today at noon, right there in front of God, the Angel Moroni and the LDS security guards. And at 12:15 p.m., they plan to trespass en masse and lock lips on the plaza. If more arrests are made, a Gandhi moment could turn into a movement, a regulation rainbow revolution, unless the church fights a kiss with a kiss. The church needs to apologize to Aune and Jones, and ask police to drop the charges. Casey Jones is a member of the Tribune editorial board. E-mail him at cjones@sltrib.com 
  • 2009 Acceptable behavior Public Forum Letter The First Unitarian Church of Salt Lake City offers unqualified support to the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community. We extend our sympathetic concern to Derek Jones and Matthew Aune for the degradation they suffered on the Main Street Plaza in downtown Salt Lake City ("Gay couple cited, cuffed after kiss near LDS temple," Tribune , July 11). The much-discussed issue of bridging the religious divide in Salt Lake City won't gain real traction until every citizen recognizes the diversity of Salt Lake City's population and the need for each of us to become more tolerant of different cultures, ethnicities and lifestyles. We believe in the inherent worth and dignity of every person. As long as people target same-sex expressions of love as "inappropriate behavior," we will only continue to divide our community. We believe all religion is rooted in the belief that compassion and love must flow unconditionally. Same-sex love is neither freakish nor politically inspired. Love, including same-sex love, is the moral center of all just communities. We hope Salt Lake might be counted among them. Ed Dieringer President, First Unitarian Church Board of Trustees Salt Lake City


Stella Lopez-Armijo & Ina Mae MurriAdd caption

2010  Ina Mae Murri (1935 – 2010) & Stella Lopez-Armijo (1934 – 2010) It is with sadness that we announce the passing of beloved Affirmation leader Ina Mae Murri along with her partner Stella Lopez-Armijo as a result of injuries both received in a car accident in Idaho. Ina Mae and Stella were visiting Idaho for a family reunion. Ina Mae wrote often about her life, including for the 1991 book Peculiar People. Stella also wrote about her life, and her story was published in From Wedded Wife to Lesbian Life: Stories of Transformation (1995).

Statement & Tribute by David Melson Executive Director Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons With deep sadness we announce that we have received word that Ina Mae Murri and her partner Stella Lopez-Armijo passed away this weekend following an automobile accident in Southern Idaho. Ina Mae led Affirmation in 1986, and was a great inspiration to many of us in Affirmation. She was recipient of the Mortensen Award in 1989.


  • Tribute by Leon D. Berg It was quite a shock to read this yesterday as it circulated among the Affirmation membership far and wide. Ina Mae and Stella were among the dear friends who kept me alive in the early 1980s in San Francisco, California as I came out as a gay Mormon. Their long time relationship gave me hope and their wisdom and guidance and humor led me into Affirmation leadership roles for the next 10 years. 
  • Tribute by Duane Jennings What a shock to receive word at work this morning about the accident and untimely deaths. It left me numb all day. I met Stella and Ina Mae at my first Affirmation Conference back in San Diego in 1993. Then I read Peculiar People and learned more about Ina Mae - pre-don't ask, don't tell US military court marshal if I recall. Since 1993 there have been many opportunities to hear their stories, and laugh and cry. God bless them for all they've done for gay and lesbian people and for Affirmation: Gay & Lesbian Mormons. They will be missed, but fondly remembered. 
  • Tribute by Walt Richey Ina Mae and Stella were remarkable women. They are part of the foundation that has eliminated most of the bigotry LGBTI experienced forty years ago. They have provided role models for scores of people, including Jaysen and myself. They gave of their time and energy freely to help others. They had colorful personalities with big tempers that were balanced by big hearts. Thank you, ladies, for all you have done. When I read that they had been killed, I got a little tearful. I wondered why. I was not close to them and had not seen them for many years. Then I realized my tears were more related to joy than sorrow. They died together. They shared a long and wonderful life together and they left together. I have little doubt this is they way they would have wanted it to be. 
  • Tribute by James Kent Ina Mae & Stella go back to the very beginning of my involvement in the San Francisco Chapter of Affirmation in 1988. They were the very first two people who greeted me, and enthusiastically welcomed me to the group. I was so closeted that it would still take me a few more weeks to admit to myself that I was gay. Ina Mae was one of the founders of the San Francisco Chapter of Affirmation in 1979. In 1989, she was the third recipient of the Mortensen Award for outstanding leadership and service to Affirmation. She has thus far been the only woman to lead Affirmation (as a General Coordinator). But she didn't do it on her own. Her Catholic partner Stella was with her 110% in everything they did. I could not think of either person without thinking of the other. I owe a lot to Stella in helping me to overcome my LDS patriarchy and misogynist prejudices. When I said something sexist out of total ignorance, she would call me on it. She helped me to be more inclusive with my words. Their influence went far beyond Affirmation, as they involved themselves in several women and senior organizations. Their home in Hayward, and then in Fremont, was a haven to hundreds of LDS GLBTI over the years. They were among our first historians in taking photographs, keeping newsletters, and anything that might be of potential historical significance for Affirmation. But more than anything else, there were very dear friends of mine. 
  • Tribute by Lowell Goodsell I first met Ina Mae and Stella about 25 years ago at an Affirmation conference. I am forever grateful for their friendship, example, and love. In those early years of my coming out they were both there to support me and guide me on my journey. I remember one of them (tho' I don't remember which) holding me in her arms one day while I cried about something. As we got to know each other better, I learned that Ina Mae grew up in Newdale near my family's farm (we had a Newdale RFD mailing address), and that Ina Mae's father and my Aunt Carma were first cousins. Stella and Ina Mae's lifelong devotion to each other has always been an example to me. I am glad they are together, and hope to see them again one day. 
  • Tribute by Mark Coberly  My heart just broke when I learned of Ina Mae and Stella's passing. I first met them in 1995 when I first attended the San Francisco chapter of Affirmation. They greeted me with arms wide open. I had a special love for Stella, as she and I would joke and banter constantly. Ina was the rock, always had wonderful ideas of how to do things and get things done. I especially loved it when we would have an activity at their home in Fremont. I will miss them very much, but I am also at peace knowing they are together . . . as it should be. 
  • Tribute by W. Lee Beardall I was saddened to learn about the untimely deaths of Ina Mae and Stella. They were two of the rocks of the Affirmation community. And they were two of the friendly faces who welcomed me at my 'official' coming-out at Affirmation in San Francisco in October 1986. I appreciated their hospitality in hosting the annual chapter Thanksgiving dinners at their Fremont home in the late 1980s and early 90s. They lived remarkable lives, were dear friends, and were real characters in the best sense of that term. 
  • Tribute by Monica Palacios  Please accept my deepest sympathy for the passing of Stella and Ina Mae. I met them when I first started doing stand up comedy in San Francisco in 1982 at the Valencia Rose Cafe. They were extremely supportive and loving women to us gay comics. They were perfect role models for the LGBT community. They will be hugely missed. 
  • Tribute by Carole Isaacks I am deeply saddened to hear of the deaths of these wonderful women. I am glad to have been a part of thier lives, at least for a time. I first met Ina at a Halloween party she and her then partner had in 1977. It was my first party as a LESBIAN and I was more than a little freaked out by the whole business.... especially when Ina's then partner dumped Ina at the party and announced she was now in a relationship with another woman, also at the party. Ina eventually found her soul mate in Stella, and I was fortunate to have their support through my own "dramas" as I sorted my life out and found my own soul mate. I Last saw them at my wedding in 1999, where both wore their infamous tux t-shirts. Their love a support was amazing over the years, I will miss them. 
  • Tribute by Devin Baker I first met Ina and Stella through Affirmation back in 1985. The two were instantly welcoming, warm and ridiculously funny. I remember one Halloween where they dressed as Bartles and Jaymes, with a twist. A smile comes to my face as I recall the laughs; there were a lot of laughs. I feel joy in my heart for having known you both.

By Hugo Salinas Exactly one year ago, I had brunch with Ina Mae. I had to go to the Bay Area for an Affirmation leadership meeting, and I flew in one day earlier to visit Ina Mae and Stella. I taped a wonderful interview with Ina Mae (Stella had her say, too!), we took pictures, and I helped Ina Mae organize her Mormon papers for a donation to the Special Collections at the University of Utah's Marriott Library. Among the thousands of papers, letters, and miscellaneous materials that we unearthed on that day, an old picture popped out. When Ina Mae saw it, her face lit up: It was a picture of Ina Mae pitching hay on her brother's land in southern Idaho in 1953. Except for the real old-timers, it is difficult for most of us to fathom how much work Ina Mae put into Affirmation over the years. We know, of course that she was Affirmation's director (or the "general coordinator," as it was then called) for 1984 and 1985, and the 1989 recipient of the Mortensen Award. But there is so much about Ina Mae and Stella that you may not know! Ina worked hard all her life. She was born in Newdale, Idaho, on January 15, 1935, the 8th of 9 children, in a devout LDS family. She grew up working hard in a farming community. "By the age of 10 I worked the fist time in the potato harvest," she wrote many years later. "School was let out for two weeks, and you got a partner and picked up potatoes. It was hard work, but we also played with our friends working with us and earned a little money for school clothes." Ina Mae discovered Affirmation in San Francisco in 1979. By that time she had served in the Air Force, married, divorced, and been in two long-time relationships with women. Ina Mae got involved in the gay and women's liberation movements in the early 1970s; helped run a women's center in Hayward, California, in the mid 1970s; and became a strong supporter of Mormons for ERA in 1979. "I am a Lesbian," Ina Mae wrote in a letter she sent to all her siblings in 1982. "The reason why I'm telling you this now is because I want you to know the whole person. I want you to know there is a lesbian in the Murri family and in the Church. If I am fighting to change the attitude of the Church and members of it, I have to start with my own family." Ina Mae's 1982 letter received mixed responses. One older sister, who had served a mission, sent her a reply which included a list of 13 scriptures which, the sister said, warned against homosexuality. Yet over time, Ina Mae's family learned to love her partner Stella, and both became a fixture in the family reunions the Murris held every summer in Idaho. Ina Mae was the rock. Stella was the comedian. They complemented each other so well, and were so united in everything they did, that some relatives called them "Stina," as if they were a single person. Stella once wrote a delightful account of how the two met, and how unlikely it first seemed that they would end up together. "Ina and I were introduced at a Gay Pride Parade, and then she called me to find out if I wanted to go to this rally and that political meeting. I said, I don't do that stuff. I asked her if she went to bars. She said no. We didn't think we had anything in common. We went to a movie, she dragged me to a Slightly Older Lesbians meeting, and the next thing I knew I was at an Equal Rights Amendment rally." At Affirmation, Ina Mae excelled. In May 1980, before the days of the Internet, she decided to start what she called "a unique experiment," a newsletter for Mormon lesbians. Ina Mae was also Affirmation's first official matchmaker, as she launched the Pen Pal program in 1983. By the mid-1980s she had become Affirmation's general coordinator, a position which she held for two years. Then in June 1988, when she no longer had the heavy burden of being national director, she focused again on the women of Affirmation by creating "An Affinity for Women," a publication which she edited between 1988 and 1998. During those ten years, Ina Mae and Stella's home in Fremont became Lesbian Mormon Central. Ina Mae corresponded with hundreds of people. She wrote dozens of articles and made presentations for Sunstone and other forums. She received mail from women all over the U.S., England, Switzerland, and Japan. Her correspondence sometimes turned into deeply personal exchanges with Mormon women who were barely coming out and desperately trying to reconcile their orientation and their religion. Ina Mae's purpose was always the same: To help her fellow sisters and brothers get to know each other, support each other, and strengthen each other. Ina Mae and Stella died in a car accident three weeks ago. Neither the Mormon service held in Idaho nor the Catholic mass held in California was your average funeral. Both the Mormon bishop and the Catholic priest validated Stella and Ina Mae's love. Morgan Smith, who went to high school with Ina Mae, was one of the Affirmation members who attended the service in Idaho. In California, another Affirmation member, John Minagro, took his guitar to the funeral mass and during the offertory sang a beautiful adaptation of a song from the classic movie Brother Sun, Sister Moon, which is the tale of St. Francis of Assisi. What is so compelling about Ina Mae and Stella's story is that it proves that love really can conquer all—even the deep-rooted prejudices that we may experience in our families. As she described the multiple funeral arrangements, one of Stella's daughters wrote to me, "Everything will be with both: Together forever, side by side." The day after Ina Mae died, one of her Mormon nieces told me, "Our consolation is that they died together and now they are in heaven, together forever." Ina Mae herself expressed that wish in a 1989 article published in Marty Beaudet's Flamingo News: "I remain a Mormon in thought, if not in activity. I have a great concern for my brothers and sisters who are struggling to reconcile their sexuality with the Church. It is a tremendous burden to be labeled a 'sinner' when what you really want is to love and to be loved; to be open with our love, and to have the acceptance of our families, friends, and yes, our Church." May we never forget Ina Mae and Stella's legacy. And every time another lesbian Mormon comes out, every time an Affirmation couple gets married, and every time a judge rules for equality, let's remember with a smile that we all have in Ina Mae and Stella two of our Founding Mothers.

2010 Drop your crinolines and grab your high-tops!   The only thing "old fashion" will be the fun! Salt Lake's only GLBT square dance club invites you to come "give it a whirl" at our latest "Taste" of Square Dancing event on July 17, 7-9pm.  Being led by our favorite caller Ross Lopton, this energetic, non-traditional and fun evening will give beginners a chance to "get a taste" of what Modern Western Square Dancing is all about with help from experienced "angels" from Temple Squares. If you've square danced with us before, you'll have a chance to "brush-up" your footwork. This FREE of charge, public-participation event will take place this coming Saturday, July 17, 7-9pm, at the Columbus Center in South Salt Lake. Click here for a map. I know, you're thinking "SQUARE dancing?" But as we say at Temple Squares: "This ain't your Grandma's square dancing!" Modern Western Square Dancing gives anyone the chance to dance either "boy" or "girl," in casual clothing, with a community of supportive gay, lesbian and straight friends. You're just as likely to be square dancing to the beat of Pop, Salsa, Ethnic, Sinatra or Madonna, as Country Western or Bluegrass music. Singles or couples are welcome, but bringing a whole group of friends makes it even more fun!  Make it a special night out - challenge your friends!  But remember, for everyone's safety and comfort, these events are alcohol-free. look forward to seeing you! Yellow Rocks (We'll teach you what that means on Saturday.)

2014 Utah asks U.S. Supreme Court for urgent intervention to halt same-sex-marriage recognition Emergency order • The state says it will prevail in defending its same-sex marriage ban. BY MARISSA LANG THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE Utah asked the U.S. Supreme Court on Wednesday to issue an emergency order that would prevent the state from recognizing the marriages of thousands of gay and lesbian Utahns, because the state believes it will ultimately prevail in its fight to revive a ban on such unions. If it does, the state wrote, Utah will do “everything possible” to enforce the law. That means effectively nullifying the more than 1,000 unions gay and lesbian Utahns entered into during a 17-day window when such weddings were legal. “If Utah’s laws are struck down, Utah will
Gene C Schaerr
recognize [same-sex couples’] interim marriages,” wrote the state’s hired counsel Gene C. Schaerr. “If Utah’s laws are upheld, Utah will do everything possible to comply with them.” Utah continues to defend its right to define marriage as a union between one man and one woman on two fronts — in the historic Kitchen v. Herbert case that toppled the state’s ban on same-sex unions in December, and in a newer Evans v. Utah suit, in which several gay and lesbian couples have challenged the state to recognize their Utah marriages. Should married same-sex couples be allowed to apply for spousal benefits before the 10th Circuit has ruled on Utah’s appeal in the Evans case, the state argued, the case itself is moot. “The district court in this case erred in holding that [same-sex couples] are entitled to an injunction now that directs Utah to recognize [same-sex couples’] interim marriages regardless of this court’s ultimate decision in Kitchen,” Schaerr wrote. “Absent a final decision by an appellate court of last resort declaring Utah’s marriage laws unconstitutional, the democratically produced decisions of Utah’s citizens should not be overturned based on the discretion of a single federal district judge unchecked by subsequent appellate review.” It is for that reason, Schaerr wrote, the Supreme Court must issue a stay to protect the state’s status quo. 
If the high court declines to intervene, more than 1,000 same-sex marriages performed in Utah during a brief window when such unions were legal will be eligible for spousal benefits at 8 a.m. Monday. Time, the state wrote, is of the essence. The U.S. Supreme Court “will soon have the final, dispositive word on the important issue of who gets to decide how to define marriage: the people of a state participating in the democratic process, or the federal courts,” Schaerr wrote. “If allowed to stand, the district court’s decision in this case will severely limit [the Supreme Court’s] ability to grant complete relief if it reverses the Kitchen decision. ... This court will only be able to ensure that the democratically expressed will of Utah’s people is respected in the future; it will not be able to ensure that the people’s will is respected as to the interim marriages that occurred before this court stepped in and stayed the Kitchen injunction.” The emergency application filed with Justice Sonia Sotomayor, who oversees the federal court circuit of which Utah is a part and who, in January, halted the issuance of marriage licenses to same-sex couples in Utah after 17 days of marriages. In its brief Wednesday, Utah expressed confidence about its chance of reviving a voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage that has been ruled unconstitutional by two federal courts.  The most recent court to declare Utah’s embattled Amendment 3 a violation of the federal Constitution was the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals.  A panel of three judges, who heard, and ultimately ruled, in Utah’s historic Kitchen v. Herbert lawsuit — which first toppled the state’s ban on same-sex marriages on Dec. 20, 2013 — subsequently denied Utah’s request to indefinitely stop married gay and lesbian couples from applying for benefits until all litigation was settled. Judges Carlos F. Lucero and Jerome A. Holmes authored the succinct denial without offering an analysis of their reasons. But, in denying Utah’s request, the judges declared the state failed to prove it would suffer irreparable harm in recognizing the marriages and didn’t demonstrate that the state is likely to prevail in its appeal. In Utah’s brief to the U.S. Supreme Court, Schaerr wrote that there was “a certainty” of harm being done to the state in denying it the right to enforce its own laws and undergo the judicial process of appeal. “Absent a stay,” Schaerr wrote, “the state and its people will also suffer severe harm to their sovereign dignity.” Last week, one appeals judge, Judge Paul J. Kelly, wrote a dissent, backing the state’s right to judicial resolution and arguing that allowing gay and lesbian couples’ marriages to be imbued with rights would undermine the appeals process. “In denying a stay pending appeal, this court is running roughshod over state laws which are currently in force,” Kelly wrote. “It is disingenuous to contend that the state will suffer no harm if the matter is not stayed; undoing what is about to be done will be labyrinthine and has the very real possibility to moot important issues that deserve serious consideration.”  Utah also asserted that because marriage is not a right overtly named in the U.S. Constitution, and same-sex marriage was only found to be covered under the Fourteenth Amendment by U.S. District Judge Robert J. Shelby less than seven months ago, the plaintiffs cannot argue that they are being denied their right to marriage because Shelby’s ruling is still in contention. If Sotomayor refuses to intervene, the state wrote, it will seek relief from the full U.S. Supreme Court. The American Civil Liberties Union, which represents the four plaintiff couples in the Evans case, has said they are also prepared to file a brief to the Supreme Court, urging the nine justices to allow the 10th Circuit’s temporary hold to expire — and thousands of couples to begin applying for state benefits.


  • In an email purportedly sent to his colleagues, Gene Schaerr made it clear why he was leaving his lucrative post as a partner at a prestigious Washington, D.C., law firm to defend Utah's laws barring same-sex marriage: his Mormon faith. The leaked email was first posted by Elie Mystal on the Above The Law blog. In it, Schaerr said he was taking a temporary position with the Utah attorney general's office. "I have accepted that position so that I can fulfill what I have come to see as a religious and family duty: defending the constitutionality of traditional marriage in the state where my church is headquartered and where most of my family resides," Schaerr said in the Jan. 17 email to co-workers at Winston & Strawn. SL Tribune 31 Jan 2014


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